When Her Husband Didn't Save Her A Seat She Got A Whole Other Table

I'll start this off by saying that I (F32) have been with my husband… (M39) for three years, married for one. His mom has a habit of keeping me out of most of their functions with the excuse of "you work too much". Not true, because sometimes I do make myself available… yet find myself excluded.

Last week [h]is mom invited us for a celebratory dinner at the restaurant after she completed her recovery… I let her and everyone know that I'd be there at 8 pm. [My husband] obviously knew I was coming.

Thing is, when I arrived to the restaurant I saw that the table was full. All chairs had been taken and I just stood there with complete puzzlement while [my husband] and his mom just stared at me. His mom then told me there was no place left for me and that I could either have [my husband] get up and take his seat or… go home.

I was so upset, but instead of going home I just went and took an entire table for me. [My husband] and his mom watched with their eyes popping out of their heads like they saw something so shocking... NGL I did get weird looks from the guests, but so did [my husband] and his mom. It was awkward in all honesty.

I had my dinner, dessert, then went home. I saw [my husband] and his mom staring grudgingly while I was making my way out. He got home an hour later and yelled, saying I embarrassed his mom in front of her guests. I yelled, asking WTF was I supposed to do after I got denied a seat, and he told me that it wasn't his nor his mom's fault guests arrived "before" me and took all the available chairs. I told him he could've saved me a chair!!!!!. He said that I could've just left instead, and reminded me that I was a "guest" and that I shouldn't expect this level of entitlement to be “accepted.” He then went on about how I ruined the entire dinner for him and his mom with what I did and has been pouting about it for days now.

I don't get it, I really don't. Was my expectation really that entitled? I mean, as his wife he should've saved me a seat. But clearly I'm missing something here.

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Girlfriend Refuses To Sell Her Horse

Me (24F) and my boyfriend (26) have been dating for around nine months.

I’ve been riding horses since around 4 years old when I started taking lessons. When I was 10 I started helping out this girl at the stable with her horse Lady. At 12… she had to sell due to time/interest and asked if me and my parents wanted to buy Lady. Luckily for me, my parents were able to buy her and she’s been mine ever since. She’s my bestest friend and I love her a lot.

When I started to date my bf I was very honest with the fact that my horse takes a lot of time, and he was fine with this. When single I could spend like three to four hours a day in the stable, but as we started dating I cut this down… [t]o about three hours every other day as this is roughly how long it takes for me to do all the cleaning/preparing food/riding. Also, most of my friends are at the stable, which obviously means this is also social for me. The other days I would not ride and try to spend less time talking, which would make it about an hour. After about six months he told me I spent too much time at the stable and I should prioritize my relationship more, and somehow his family got involved and [said[ it was strange to prioritize the way I did. I wasn’t comfortable with this, but I am a bit of a pushover, so I agreed.

At first this meant cutting down time at the stable, but it has evolved into cutting down riding days. Now I ride about two days a week and the rest I’m simply there to do the basics. All of this as quickly as I can because otherwise I know he’ll be annoyed and pissed off for days and give me the silent treatment. I know my horse isn’t really suffering from not being ridden as often as before, but I still feel very guilty that I’m always rushing around her.

Then last night he told me it was time to sell Lady. I laughed at him and asked if he was serious. He was. I told him no, and he said I needed to start prioritizing this relationship more, and I said I’ve done nothing but prioritize this relationship. We argued about it, and he apparently thinks I can just put her down as she’s old anyways. I was furious at this and told him that was absolutely not happening and I would never sell her. He said that any reasonable person would sell or put down their horse in favor of their boyfriend, and the only reason I wouldn’t is because I only hang out with other insane horse people.